“I write about fears and insecurities on my blog and I’m not afraid to admit I still have some. Fortunately, I know I can overcome my fears and that I’m capable of working through any insecurities I feel. Like the other day for example. The thought popped into my head that I might appear to be feminine at times. After a few minutes of self-talk, I was able to reassure myself that I’m actually quite manly. Then as I finished painting the rest of my toenails, a smile came to my face as I realized how ridiculous the thought was.”
I was a skinny and very insecure teenager and, as a result, I needed to be someone I wasn’t. Someone great. I even started boxing at fifteen because of this and tried to act like Muhammad Ali. With dedication and a boxing style I copied from Ali. I was able to win an amateur Golden Gloves championship at 16 years old, but my insecurities stayed with me as I grew older.
Eventually, I found that a continual striving for personal and spiritual growth helped me become more self-confident, and a whole new world opened up to me. One where I would start to love myself and others, and help those in need.
Today, I still try to be like Muhammad Ali. But when I stop and think about who I’ve become—who I am. Although I’m not famous or have achieved all the great things he has, I can say I am like Ali in some ways.
“Self-confidence isn’t built by thinking we have all the answers in life. It’s built by admitting we don’t have all the answers, and not being afraid to ask for help in finding the ones we need.”