I was a skinny and very insecure teenager, and as a result, I needed to be someone I wasn’t. Someone great. I even started boxing at fifteen because of this, and tried to act like Muhammad Ali. With dedication and a boxing style I copied from Ali, I was able to win an amateur Golden Gloves championship at 16 years old, but my insecurities stayed with me as I grew older. Eventually, I found that a continual striving for personal and spiritual growth helped me become more self-confident, and a whole new world opened up to me. One where I would start to love myself and others, and help those in need. Today, I still try to be like Muhammad Ali. But when I stop and think about who I’ve become; who I am. Although I’m not famous or have achieved all the great things he has, I can say I am like Ali in some ways.
“Sometimes when a person lashes out at us; it’s important to remember something we can sometimes forget. People are jealous. This can be especially true when we’re happy in our lives. Insecurity is a root problem for many people, and so is fear. Both fear and insecurity are caused by doubts. Doubts about life. And what’s usually the case with someone who lashes out at others. Doubts about themselves.”
Like me. A lot of people love lists. So I thought I’d share a list of some things that can help us face our fears and overcome them.
1. Hope. Having hope that things will be all right is perhaps the best way to begin the process of overcoming any fears that crop up in our lives.
2. Understanding our fears and why we have them. This can come through self-examination and talking with people we trust about our fears.
3. Talking to others. Talking to someone about how we’re feeling is one of the best ways to help us distinguish between real and perceived fears, and it often relieves some of the worry and anxiety we have.
4. Self-Talk. We need to tell ourselves everything will work out. This should include reminding ourselves of past unwanted circumstances we got through and how things could always be worse.
5. Remaining positive. Trying to remain positive when we feel fearful can be hard, but redirecting our thoughts of doubt and worry to more positive ones has been proven to help us with fear, and in some cases, actually improve our circumstances.
6. Helping Others. This has proven to take our minds off our own troubles and in many ways we’re helping ourselves as well. Especially when we help someone who has had a far worse past than us, and yet still became a stronger person than before.
7. Belief. Having faith can be hard for some people, including me. But trying to believe in more than just this world has helped me in times when nothing else has.
I would explain my belief further, but you can read about my beliefs on my blog. I promise it won’t be scary.
Know anyone who lives up to the idiom “Fly by the seat of one’s pants?” It’s basically a person who isn’t afraid to do something even though they don’t experience or training to do it. I don’t necessarily think is a bad thing. I like to think of myself as someone who flies by the seat of my pants when it comes to facing different fears and insecurities in my life. However, at one time I was the type of person who flew by the seat of my emotions and know quite a few people who still do.
These people seem to always let whatever emotions they’re feeling at the time, whether it’s happiness, sadness, anger, worry, ect, affect their behaviors and sometimes their actions towards others. Usually this is because they’ve done this all their lives and never practiced restraint or felt a need to change the way they behave. Mostly these types live in the extremes of happiness or the negative emotions they feel over their immediate circumstances.
It took me a long time to stop “living” by the seat of my emotions and simply begin living life. But eventually, through practice and help from people who weren’t afraid to point out my erratic and sometimes hurtful behavior’s, I found an emotional balance that has served me quite well over the years.