“When we talk about our recovery, we should also speak of the two H’s, essential for promoting emotional wellness and greater happiness. One is hope, and the other is help. It doesn’t matter what order they come in. We just need to know that hope can lead to help, and that help can lead to hope. And together they can bring us the desired outcome.”
“Its been said that faith can move mountains. However, for some us non-religious types, having faith during troubling times is often hard. We need to have something to help us though, and this is where hope comes in. No matter how unfortunate my circumstances have been in the past, having and maintaining hope was always the foundation for better days to come. I’m not saying faith can’t move mountains; I try to believe that something created life and the universe for a reason. I’ve just found hope to be a very important part of process.”
“Fear can be our friend, or it can be our enemy. It just depends on how we handle it. Reassuring self-talk is my go to method to help me feel better whenever I’m fearful, and I often find comfort in talking with others about how I’m feeling. But hope and belief is an important part of overcoming our fears.
We can experience worry and anxiety when we feel afraid, especially if we find it hard to turn our hope that things will be OK, into belief that they will. But along with hope and belief, I’ve found that prayer can also play a part in overcoming our fears. I don’t always get the things I pray for. But it has never let me down when it comes to eventually believing everything will be all right.
Call it belief or call it faith; it doesn’t matter much to me. All of the things I mentioned helps me to believe in myself more. And a little more in something that created life and the universe for a reason.
Call it belief or call it Faith. It doesn’t really matter much to me. I just know that prayer, people, hope, and self-talk has always helped me with my fears during difficult times and to become a stronger person than I was before.”
“My cup has yet to runneth over, but at least it no longer leaks.”
In an earlier post called “Depression Ain’t It A Bitch,” I wrote about my experience with a minor depression I went through. However, I don’t pretend to be an expert on the subject. I just love people and hold those suffering from depression near and dear to my heart.
Millions of people suffer from depression, and sadly, some come to see suicide as the only option to rid themselves of the emotional pain they feel. People with depression often have feelings of worthlessness or guilt. Feel hopeless, sad, and empty. And have an inability to experience pleasure.
Although I have seen what hope can do in people’s lives, including my own, I can fully understand how overcoming depression can seem like an impossible task for some.
Again I’m certainly not an expert on depression; I only know what I’ve read about it. But I learned that fighting any shame we feel and seeking professional help are key factors in overcoming depression.
Of course medication can be necessary, and new research shows great promise that through science and medicine, a cure can be found for this debilitating and, some times, deadly illness.
Go to American Foundation for Suicide Prevention for more information. Thank you.
It’s very hard to convince others to see things our way if they don’t want to. There’s hot and cold, up and down, and everything in between when it comes to life’s experiences and what people believe in. But it is this polarity and all the things in between that makes me see a design to life.
Believe what you want, but it seems like something is going on here, and I can’t help but to have hope it will all be explained to me after I die. If I’m wrong, well then it’s not going to matter.
However, I rather go through life with hope and some level of belief that something created life and the universe for a reason, than thinking life has no meaning at all. When I do this, the world doesn’t seem so harsh, and it’s easier for me to love and understand others whether they believe in something or not.
Fears began in my childhood, grew in my teenage years, and stayed with me throughout my adult life. Thankfully, through the twelve and a half years I’ve been sober I have become better at understanding my fears and coping with them until I am able to overcome them. As far as any new fears I experience, I know they are really just old ones that have resurfaced. However, because I’m aware they’re old fears it’s easier for me to quickly move past them.
Really when I think about it, the only new fears I seem to experience anymore come from doubts I sometimes have. My biggest doubt created fear today is whether I will become successful in my endeavor to go out and help others at the level I want to.
Fortunately, as I said, I’ve learned how to cope with my fears, but there are days when I need help in overcoming them. On those days, I pray to whatever created life and the Universe to give me guidance and reassurance, and I thank it for everything in my life. Then despite my fears, I tell myself everything will be all right and go about my day waiting for the guidance and reassurance I need. I do this by looking for what some people call a sign. I began calling these signs “non coincidences” several years ago, and not only do they help me believe that I’m on the right track in life, but they also give me hope that there’s a God of some kind.
Sometimes this happens through a song I haven’t heard in a long while that holds some special meaning to me. Or a magazine article that I feel I was meant to read. And other times it happens through an informative TV show of some type. However, more often than not, these “non coincidences” come about through a chance meeting with someone who in conversation says something that gives me the guidance and reassurance I asked for.
Prayer, people, hope and self-talk have kept me sober and greatly contributed to the happiness I cherish so much today. Without these tools, I don’t know what I would have done when the doubts and fears I felt throughout my sobriety, especially early on, almost overcame me.