“There can be times in our recovery when we focus more on what we’re doing wrong than on what we’re doing right. While it’s certainly important to find and correct the things that made us unhappy in life and with ourselves. It’s equally important to see the good things we do. Eventually, as this process continues. We find less things that need correcting. More things to be happy about. And more reasons to love ourselves.”
I enjoy helping others. It makes me feel good about myself, and gives me a sense of achievement.
The definitions listed below are why I think most people’s troubles come from insecurity, and not ego like many spiritual gurus state. The third definition of ego comes from insecurity. It is a false sense of ego used to overlook our fears and insecurities, and help us feel better about ourselves. I should know. I had a false ego all through my life—even into my early sobriety. It was in my sobriety, however, that I was able to become more self-confident and grow to love myself. I also found greater happiness in life. Especially after finally becoming happy with who I was.
It is those things that I want for others. It’s why I do what I do to help people. Not because of ego. And not because of insecurity. But because of who I’ve become.
ego: 1. A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance. 2. The part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity. 3. An overly high opinion of oneself
insecurity: 1. Uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence.
I know I haven’t made a serious video in a long time, but I’ve been busy enjoying my life, as you will see in this video. It isn’t the extreme type we see that goes viral. And to some it may not be all that funny. But I had fun making it with my wife’s help, and making fun of myself. As I’ve written before, being able to laugh at ourselves is an important asset to have in our sobriety.
“One of my best achievements in life was learning to see the good in people and not their flaws. It wasn’t always easy, and still isn’t today. But doing so helps me feel good about myself and love who I am; two more of my best achievements.”
“I’ve heard it said that a lot of the emotional pain we experience in life is caused by having too much ego, but this isn’t always true. Our egos are necessary to help us love ourselves and feel good about who we are. Not loving ourselves and not feeling good about who we are can also cause us emotional pain. But this is due to fear and insecurity, and not having enough ego.”
I decided to lighten things up a bit on my blog with a few video’s I’ve done for my YouTube channel. I actually have a great sense of humor and my wife sometimes has to ask. “You can’t ever be serious can you?” I know I don’t show this humor very often on my blog, but that’s basically due to the passion I feel when writing. I do, however, show my humorous side in some of my video’s, and I hope you enjoy them. I believe that being able to make fun of ourselves shows good self-esteem. There I go getting serious again.