A Human Being Spiritual

At the end of the day I am happy with who I am, because I know who I am. A human being who has learned how to practice love, kindness, understanding, and tolerance toward others and themselves. Or what I like to call, being spiritual.

Now it can be hard to show any one of these things toward some people. Sometimes a person’s behaviors can be so obnoxious or rude that it seems impossible to even tolerate them. But it has been my experience that, often times, it is these very people who need love and kindness.

Their behaviors can actually be an indication that they don’t love themselves and aren’t happy with who they are. In this respect being an example of someone who is can defuse what seems like an attack, and turn the situation into a more positive one.

I’m not saying we should allow people to treat us badly. It should be the very love of ourselves that spurs us to confront someone’s harsh behaviors and let them know we will not tolerate their treatment of us. But this can be done without showing anger or disdain toward the individual.

It can take a lot of practice to get to a point in our lives where we can calmly assess a situation and react in a spiritual way when someone is acting badly. But I know it can be done. Sometimes all I need to do is remember how my own rude and obnoxious behaviors were often due to the lack of love I had for myself.

Fortunately, I’ve spent the last twenty-two years of my sobriety trying to not only grow spiritually, but also as a person, and this has brought a wonderful revelation to me. Even if I cannot treat someone with love and kindness, I can at least try to be understanding of their behaviors, and show a level of tolerance that I know I will later be glad I did.

Again, though, it does not mean that we have to be tolerant of anyone’s rude and obnoxious conduct. It simply means that we should remember the times when we have acted badly toward someone, and why we did.

Hopefully, if we are lucky, there is at least one incidence that we can recall where instead of being treated back in the same way, we were shown some level of love, kindness, understanding, and tolerance from another human being who had learned how to practice these things toward themselves and others.

Or what I like to call. Being spiritual.

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A Blog That Rocks

A Facebook friend of mine mentioned a blog he likes and since I also like it, I thought I should share it with my readers.  I don’t comment on many blogs unless I feel they have merit to them, but I did on this one because it does.

The website is Sobriety, recovery, and all things in-between. And the author is Veronica Vallie; a wonderful person whom I share similar views with on addiction.

She has also written a very good book called, Why You Drink And How To Stop, available on Amazon.com.

Please check out her website. I’m sure you’ll enjoy what she has to say about recovery. Thank you.

 

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Practicing A Simple Spirituality

My definition of spirituality is a simple one; try to practice love, kindness, understanding, and tolerance toward others and ourselves. However, as you may already know, this isn’t always easy to do. People can irritate us and we don’t always react well to them. Or worse, someone makes us really angry and we blow up at them, without any thought of being spiritual, and then later we beat ourselves up for the way we acted.

This is understandable in some circumstances, of course, after all the key word here is practice. But even with practice I still get angry with people at times, and I don’t always behave in a spiritual manner. This is especially true when I’m tired, or when things aren’t going my way on some days. Even on those days though, I still don’t blow up at anyone—it’s much easier to practice love, kindness, understanding, and tolerance toward others now.

Actually, I got better at practicing this simple spirituality toward myself first, which helped to make it easier. But in reality, I know I can’t love everyone or always understand their behaviors. All I can really do is to try my best to be kind, or at least tolerant, and not respond in a nasty way.

Now this doesn’t mean we need to take shit from people. I know that last statement doesn’t sound very spiritual, but I’m not claiming to be a saint here. I simply try to believe that something created life and the universe for a reason, and practice these things in an effort to grow.

This may be a simple definition of spirituality, but I believe it’s one that anybody can practice, no matter what their beliefs are.

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Being Everything To Everyone

I’ve learned that I can’t be everything to everyone and that not everyone is going to like me. I want people to like me of course, but due to the level of spiritual and personal growth I’ve obtained over the years, I no longer need everyone to like me. I will say, however, that I wish I could be everything to everyone when it comes to helping others.

The truth is though, that some people don’t feel they need help or are too proud to ask for it. There are those who are dependent on drugs, but don’t think they have a problem. And people who act out in different ways to feel important about themselves who see nothing unusual about it. Then there are those who feel hopeless about certain situations in their lives who either thinks no one cares or that asking for help is a weakness. In my experience, it takes a lot of courage to ask for help and doing so actually makes us stronger.

As I said, I’ve learned I can’t be everything to everybody, and I also know I can’t save the world. But there are some things I can do. I can be an example of someone who tries to love others. Shows kindness toward people, even when I don’t want to. And at the very least, be an example of someone who tries to understand others and practice tolerance toward those I don’t like.

It’s through our actions and behaviors that we can show people there are those of us who still care about them in life, and give them something to believe in. I know this to be true because it’s how I’ve lived my life for some time now. Not perfectly mind you; I struggle some days to do the things I speak of here. But no matter when I fail or feel like it doesn’t matter, I never give up trying to love others. And if they allow me to, I never give up trying to help them find their way in life.

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