“A good friend is someone who can bring out the best in us when we’re at our worst. Make us smile when we don’t want to. And feel better in times when we don’t think it’s possible.”
When we give our love and friendship to someone and receive little of the same in return, we can wonder if we’re doing something wrong or start believing they just don’t care that much about us. Either way, the lack of receiving something more has the power to hurt us and often does.
We can talk to them about it and hope the relationship improves, but sometimes it’s simply a case of expecting more out of someone than they’re capable of. It’s this reality that should prompt us to reevaluate the relationship and decide if an unequal friendship is worth having.
I know it can be hard to distance ourselves from people we love and I’m not suggesting we should give up easily on our relationships with them. But there needs to come a time when we realize we’re hurting ourselves more than they are, and love ourselves enough to end any emotional pain we feel.
“As a child, I had an invisible friend, but not many real ones. As a teenager, I hung around with the ‘cool’ kids, but none were really a friend. In my drinking days, there were people I knew in bars that I called friend, but they weren’t. In my sobriety, I learned how to be a friend and I now have ones who love me. I also now have an entourage of invisible friends, but that’s another story.”