The definitions listed below are why I think most people’s troubles come from insecurity and not ego like many spiritual gurus state.
1. uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence
1. A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
2. The part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.
3. An overly high opinion of oneself.
The third definition of ego comes from insecurity. But it is a false sense of ego used to overlook our fears and insecurities and help us feel better about ourselves.
I should know. I had a false ego all through my life—even into my early sobriety. It was in my sobriety, however, that I was able to become more self-confident and grow to love myself. I also found greater happiness in life. Especially after finally becoming happy with who I was.
It is those things that I want for others. It’s why I do what I do to help people. I enjoy helping others. It makes me feel good about myself and gives me a sense of achievement.
Not because of ego. And not because of insecurity. But because of who I’ve become.