“When I think about the world today. Like most parents and grandparents, I have concerns about my kid’s and grandchildren’s future—some days it manifests as fear. But I also enjoy my time with them, which doesn’t include worry. We can love and still be fearful. But I am truly not in fear when spending time with my kids and grandkids. I’m in a place of love then. Simply living in the moment.”
It wells up inside of you. An emotional pain that’s hard to describe but easy to feel when someone you tried to help is suddenly gone. Especially when it was a special person who was easy to love.
You go from feeling shocked and sad to just feeling deep sadness. The question changes from “Why?” To. “Could I have done more to help?” You cry. You get angry. You talk to someone about how you’re feeling—then you cry some more. But nothing takes the deep sadness away.
You know nothing can change what happened. More questions arise. You ask yourself. “What could I have done differently?” “What could I have said differently?” More feelings of anger emerge. And then you just feel numb.
You look at pictures of this wonderful person. You read how so many other people are feeling, and then it wells up inside of you.
An emotional pain that’s hard to describe but easy to feel.
Not because you tried to help this person. But because like so many others, you’re simply mourning the loss of a special person who was easy love.
“Some people go through life believing a relationship will fulfill them. That all they need is to be with someone they love, who will love them in return, and they will finally be happy. I agree that a relationship is worth having. That to love someone and be loved back is a wonderful thing. However, it wasn’t until I learned to love myself that I became more fulfilled and happier in life. And it wasn’t until I learned to love myself unconditionally that I was able to love someone else the same way. It was then and only then that I stopped believing a relationship was what I needed to be happy. And learned how to have one.”
“There are many horrible and cruel diseases that cause great suffering and I wish they could all be cured. However, one of the cruelest, in my opinion, is Alzheimer’s. Maybe there is less personal suffering than I think. But to love someone who doesn’t remember us is quite heartbreaking, and I can’t imagine someday not remembering the people I love. Rob me of my health, but don’t rob me of my memories. I never want to lose the ability to tell those who love me that I love them more and to reassure them that I’ll be all right after I leave this world.”
“If anything sticks out to me as to how times have changed, it would have to be the extremes in people’s actions and behaviors today. We have more knowledge and education at our disposal now, than at any other time in history, and yet in some ways seem more uncivilized. More angry. And less loving and tolerant.”
I can get all caught up in the negative emotions this world sometimes causes. But I know the fault is really my own—I know better.
Sometimes I feel a sadness that can overwhelm me. Or I can get angry about something I have no control over. And I can even worry at times with no apparent troubles in my life.
Again, I know better. But sometimes when I leave the house and I’m all caught up in one or more of these emotions, I become frustrated with people and things. The slow drivers, a cashier taking too long to help the person in front of me at the checkout, the weather. It really doesn’t matter, because I’m all caught up in some negative emotion.
However, there is something within me that says you know better—you can do better. Call it the voice of self-talk I’ve learned to use when I’m not at my emotional best. The voice of goodness that I know is a part of me. Or a voice that’s spiritual in nature. Whatever it is I hear, it calms me and helps me change my current thoughts to ones of love. At first it’s the love I already have for myself that comes from knowing I am not the person I’m behaving as, and then it’s the love I try to have for others.
After that. Any negative emotions I’m caught up in go away and I become a better person than I was only a few moments before.
Perhaps what I hear is the voice of love within us. A love that we are all capable of having and showing if we try. Especially in times when we’re all caught up in negative emotions.
“When I try to understand others, not only am I able to find good in most people, but also love the good I find in them. Now in all honesty I can’t say I love everyone, and there are actually some people I don’t like. But I refuse to hate anyone. Hatred can consume us and prevent us from growing.”